January of 2013, my son Nikko came to me with information about his nanny, Nita. He described inappropriate behavior that took place while he was with his nanny, while “at a man Pike's house.”I immediately terminated Nita's employment and e-mailed Arizona, telling her what Nikko had told me. Arizona, as well as her mother Davina told me not to go to the police because it “may cause Nikko more stress.” I didn’t want to wait, but like a fool, I did. We agreed to go together when she returned from a new years celebration in Mystique with Cara Delevigne (her girlfriend at the time) and other friends.
When Arizona returned, it was very obvious she was under the influence of drugs when she showed up to my flat. She was paranoid and acting suspiciously. I asked her to get rest, and come back to my flat the next day. I was very disappointed.
The following day, Arizona went without me to file a police report. She asked to pick up Nikko for lunch and did not bring him back to my flat after, like she promised. Then she refused to let me see my son whom had been living with me full time, since we moved to London. Arizona was suspicious, suggesting I had something to do with what Nikko had described to me days earlier (“Pike” had kissed him & Nita, and scared him with a gun).
Arizona was acting odd… Soon after speaking to Davina, I learned that Arizona’s father, Garry Muse had sexually abused her when she was a young girl. I think this was the reason she was so suspicious, also the drugs she was doing. She has always had a certain animosity toward men. After speaking with social services and the police in Knotting Hill for several weeks, they dropped the case due to lack of any kind of evidence. I did not raise Nikko to lie, something happened… and I believe Arizona is covering something up!
I filed a residence order with the courts in London, but when Arizona found out, she drained our bank accounts, then left to Paris. My work visa, which was illegally provided to me through Arizona’s agency, NEXT Model Management (I was listed as a Model/ DJ, but didn’t work a single day) was revoked at Arizona’s request. For that reason, I was forced to leave the UK or she (along with her agency) assured me they would call immigration.
Arizona lured me to the UK under false pretenses… In the back of my mind, I knew she wanted to take Nikko away from me after she got settled, and moving abroad with her dual citizenship was her easy way out. … that’s exactly what she did. I was coerced, and because we were unwed, I didn’t have many other options, so I agreed to leave behind everything in NY so I could care for my son and make sure he’d be raised in in a loving/ safe environment.
Before leaving Europe, Arizona convinced me to give her Nikko's passport. I didn't want to give it to her, but I literally had no money and no way to fly back to the US… she told me if I didn't give it to her she would not purchase the plane ticket I needed and threatened to report me to immigration. I didn't want to get in trouble with the law, so I gave her his passport and took a one-way flight to the US. I presumed the courts in America could help since Nikko is an American citizen, but jurisdictional laws prevent immediate action from the courts.
I’m currently in possession of his original birth certificate, listed as his father… I have reason to believe she acquired another birth certificate, listing only herself as Nikko’s parent… and is in the process of obtaining a UK passport for Nikko.
I’m desperate for help. The word needs to get out, because even with legal representation in NY and London, the process is extremely lengthily.
It’s embarrassing to be so open, but pride aside, I won’t stop until I am able to see my son. He will be 6 in April, and I haven’t spoken to him, or Arizona in over a year… nor have I received a photo (a single photo) from Arizona after countless attempts.
"Arizona isn’t even working," she’s been hiding out so she doesn’t have to comply with the courts. I have a very good source that works for Aerin Lauder, and I hear that "Arizona’s contract with Estee Lauder has been terminated."
If people are aware of this information, she will be more likely to stay in one place and be forced to deal with this. What she’s doing is absolutely repulsive; Parental Alienation CHILD ABUSE… I haven’t abandoned my son. I’m legitimately concerned, and am sure he is not being raised in a healthy/safe environment.
A lot of you out there
consider me a slime ball or whatever for airing our “dirty laundry” (even referring to me as a gargoyle, which I find quite amusing)…. but are
misinterpreting my blog. Believe me, I know what you’re writing.
Put yourself in my
Imagine you have a child,
whom you love more than anything, and whom you’ve been caring for.
Then imagine that whenever
your “partner” is in town (rarely), she’s unavailable and only brings chaos and
inconsistency into your home.
Finally, when you attempt an "intervention", because it’s long overdue, your “partner” retaliates by leaving
the country, and drains all of your (shared) accounts.
You’re then forced to leave
your current residence (UK) because you’re visa has been revoked by your “partners”
When you return to your home
country (US) and hire council, there is nothing your attorney can do because of "jurisdiction laws"… and can only suggest hiring council in the UK.
Well, this is my situation;
I’ve been dealing with this for nearly a month without hearing a word from
Arizona. What would you do, or turn to without resources? Someone said it best:
“If he's up
against Arizona who probably has enough money to hire an adequate legal team,
who do you think is more likely to lose out? :/ I'm not trying to defend him
but I can see that desperate times call for desperate measures.. besides, he
probably wanted Arizona to straighten herself out and shaming her in public
would probably somehow motivate/drive her to sober up?”
Sure, I’ve made mistakes, but my lifestyle changed when Nikko was
born… that was the reason I was so intimate about my past.
It didn’t for Arizona, it
became toxic, you can’t live like that with a child. And if you've ever worked in fashion, you know it's even encouraged.
I don’t regret anything I
said…. Interpret it as you wish.
P.S. This was funny.
Wow, make a lifetime movie about it:
"An American Top Model and her Latino Bottom Blogger"
"Arizona: The Real Long Island Iced Tea"
"Two and a Half Men: the Arizona Muse story"
"The Pusher's Muse: a story of love, lines, and... lies?"
By the way, I'm not a bottom.... lol, and thank you all for your kind e-mails.
I knew there was going to be
a backlash when I went public about my relationship and current situation involving Arizona Muse. I'n all honesty, I’ll always care
about her, she’s my son’s mother… and for that I’ll continually hold her close to my
I love my son, more than words
could ever express…. But I haven’t seen, nor have I heard from my boy in nearly a
month. It’s killing me inside, it’s not fair what she’s doing to us.
I’ve made many mistakes I’m
not proud of, and I am not blaming Arizona for everything… you cant naively
think I have put absolutely everything on this blog, come on!
I’ve been receiving e-mails,
telling me I’m a terrible person, and have been reading horrible things about myself online.
The truth is, I’m just TIRED of lying, I’ve been lying for so long, keeping secrets which only make things worse... and unless
all of you are aware of this situation you’re going to think I have this happy,
wonderful life, and Arizona is our “Lord & Saviour” but I don’t, and she is
Also, there are people out there who presume
I just sucked every cent I could from her… To answer to that absurd statement:
Yes, Arizona was taking care of my expenses, but I gave up my career… and it was all
worth it, the reason is Nikko. I knew if he were living with me (which he was),
he would be safe and have somewhat of a normal childhood.
You can’t think a mother
who works at the level that Arizona does, would have the availability to spend
quality time with her child. I mean she goes out every fucking night, are you
people blind?!?! Seriously, and I’m the bad guy? Most will never
understand, we're all so infatuated with celebrity we don't see the obvious!
BTW, I am a great father… I’m the father I never had; the father I
always dreamed would be there for me. I have done absolutely everything in my power to be there for NIkko, to be present, and now I'm being punished for confronting her. ... Remember, all of this while supporting Arizona, even though I didn't agree with her lifestyle.
There are a few quotes I came across online that seem to sum it up, thank you for your support.
“You guys are ridiculous. Seriously Arizona's behavior is not
secret to 99% of people in the fashion industry. And maybe this is not the best
way for Manuel to do things but she’s uses his kid as a weapon, at the same
time she uses him to enhance her career. Arizona, the perfect model mom, look
at her posing with her beautiful son. Only she’s far from the model mom. Manuel
is not allowed to see his kid unless it suits Arizona, while she is off her
tits most of the time, yet you guys are making him out to be the bad person
here? As for Freja, yeah she really is beautiful. She tried to help Arizona as
much as possible. Even agreeing to move to London. But Arizona fucked that up
too. This girl is all about herself.”
“I agree with the part about her
son. Arizona has always tried to portray the perfect model-mom image, and uses
her son in shoots. But yet we all know she parties and almost certainly uses
drugs. I don't see Manuel being a dick in this situation to be honest. I just
see him as a desperate father who is concerned for his son. If Arizona isn't
talking to him, how the hell else is he supposed to get her attention?”
Arizona had a breakdown September
2011… I was away from NYC, but she called me desperately, pleading for help. At
that time, Nikko had three nannies because she was working so often and
trotting him along from country to country with her. She begged me to rush to NY so I
could care for my son full time, I was more than happy… I dropped everything
and moved immediately.
She had/has a major problem with
alcohol, painkillers and amphetamines. I was shocked, had no idea…. but of
course I did everything I could to help her… including pretending we were the perfect family.
She skipped two seasons
walking the runway because she was “incapable of being videotaped”, she was
literally so out of it most of the time, she wasn’t showing up to work. Her
agency NEXT must have been so pissed. We decided to move to London June 2012,
to hopefully help change her patterns.
Everything just kept just
getting worse and worse. She has three doctors; in different countries
prescribing her “amphetamine salt” and painkillers to help her stay thin, awake
during long days of shooting, and still be able to sleep at night.
Early this year we had a
falling out, she was so paranoid, projecting all of her issues/insecurities on
me… I basically told her I wanted full custody of Nikko and I filed a residence
order with the courts in London.
She retaliated, left to Paris
with Nikko and drained our bank accounts. Also, since my visa was provided through
her agency, she had them revoke it so I was forced to leave the UK earlier this
I know I’m going to get a lot
of flack for this blog of mine…. But Arizona needs help (even her secret attempt to
get sober in Bali last year proved to be of no help).
She threatened to sue me for
blackmail if I went to the press. Thats not what it's about ... I'm really concerned for my son's welfare. I don’t know where she is, she won’t return my calls
and I don’t know who is caring for my son.
Financially, she can do anything at this point… This
means surrounding herself with a team of “terrorists” to keep me at bay. My son
is not safe in her care, its virtually impossible for me to do anything
I’ve included screenshots of
a few conversations we had just before she left to Mustique for New Years…
also, photos posted on Instagram during that week.
While out at Greenhouse, I
met a guy (not going to mention his name)… he was really cute. I liked him a
lot. We went back to his place at the end of the night,
but while exiting the cab, he fell out and broke his arm. Honestly, it was a little embarrassing… but
worked out well for both of us (minus the scar he will have on his forearm forever).
We didn’t go to the
hospital until the next day. He needed surgery. I felt partially responsible. Afterward, I had him stay with me until he he was able to return to
work. We spent like two full weeks together. I cooked him
roast chicken (a rarity, I hate cooking), helped him shower, etc. I took care
of him and we started dating. No more philandering for me.
As our relationship
progressed, Arizona became more available. Well, we started talking more at
least, and shared everything with each other.
I think the pressure of
becoming so big, so fast was really difficult for Arizona to deal with. She
wasn’t the same girl I’d met years earlier, she was vacant, hardly showed any
emotion, and was proud of the fact she could “deceive people” into thinking she
was “sober”, even if she was fucked out of her mind.
I felt sorry for her, but
what do you do if someone says they’re happy… but contradicts themselves, always complaining about the work they’re doing?
*PLEASE DON'T ASK ABOUT FREJA... All I'll say is I have a lot of respect for her and think she is quite lovely. She's a beautiful woman, inside and out.